What do you believe is holding you back from achieving ultimate fulfillment and success in life?
If you are being completely honest with yourself, would you agree that it’s predominately fear?
Fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear of success, fear of judgment. You name it. Fear has a stronghold over most of our lives.
It is so powerful, yet fear is nothing more than an illusion. A complete figment of our imaginations paralyzing us in so many areas of our lives.
Fear keeps us in bad marriages, unfulfilling careers, unhealthy bodies, and living a life of flat out mediocrity. We use excuses, rationalizations, and justifications to support our fear rather than confront it.
But why is fear so powerful? Because as a society, we are conditioned to look outside of ourselves for validation, approval, and recognition.
We seek acceptance from others rather than love and accept ourselves. This longing for approval casts a shadow over the life we say we want.
It often feels too risky to step outside of the status quo, so we remain stuck instead. Cornered in the boxes, family and friends have created for us, and we’ve unintentionally reinforced.
Endlessly denying our goals and dreams because we have grown accustomed to living inside our comfort zones.
We do not realize that the comfort zone is where we bury our potential. Comfort breeds complacency, and complacency is a one-way street to emptiness.
Sure it may not feel like emptiness at first. It feels safe and cozy in the beginning. Only to find out years later that a part of us was slowly dying inside, and we were unconsciously numbing away the pain.
Numbing can look a lot of different ways: alcohol, shopping, constant scrolling on social media, and television are some of the many ways we run from the reality of all the things we could be improving in our lives.
Of course, in many ways, fear is a good thing.
It’s what allowed us to evolve as a species.
However, while fear is an essential mechanism for our safety, it is also crippling in our advancement towards a better life.
If we want to fulfill our highest potential and move towards our dream life, we must recognize that fear is a natural part of growth. It does not go away.
It is merely an indication that we are in the process of leveling up. We are stepping into the unknown.
We must remember that greatness requires stretching outside of our comfort zone and becoming comfortable in being uncomfortable.
Most of us hate to venture outside of our comfort zone. We prefer to stay where it’s safe and familiar.
So how do we break this vicious cycle? How do we begin moving towards fear rather than away from it?
In her book, Feel the Fear And Do It Anyway, Susan Jeffers writes, “All you have to do to diminish your fear is to develop more trust in your ability to handle whatever comes your way!”
The only thing preventing you from facing your fears is the perception that you will not be able to handle what may come as a result of your decision.
What if you took the time to contemplate and reflect on all the things you have overcome in the past and realize there is nothing you can’t handle?
Some challenges will be more difficult than others, but in the end, there is always a way to resolve any situation. It may be uncomfortable, but you are quite capable of handling it.
The reality is as long as we continue to stretch, grow, and move towards our dreams, fear will accompany us along the way.
The sooner we accept the notion that fear doesn’t have to prevent us from moving forward, the sooner we can step into our potential. Our confidence will grow the more we commit to stepping into the unknown.
As a result, we begin to recondition our minds to trust in our capabilities. The doing comes first, and our confidence builds as a result. Not the other way around.
We no longer operate under the pretense that we should wait for the fear to go away before we take action.
As long as we are taking steps, no matter how small, we are standing in the face of fear and moving towards growth in the direction of our higher self.